The Motivational Experience: For You, Me, and US!

In life sometimes we go through stages where we feel unsure of our purpose, start to question why we are here, or whats the point, overall just feeling lost and get stuck. Which makes sense because if we knew the answers we wouldn't be sitting contemplating and questioning ourselves. Unfortunately there is not a GPS to life we can turn on to tell us where to go next. So what do we do?

• Call Someone- call someone you can talk to that will mostly listen and help you sort out your thoughts. Remember that this is YOUR life so don't expect them to have the answers either. Their main role is to help you by listening and giving you ideas that can help you get on the the right path that suits YOU. This is also great for venting and getting all these thoughts out of you head. Chances are you've been arguing and contemplating with yourself all day trying to figure out where to go and this should help you feel a little more sane knowing that someone is there to answer back

• Write- they say your deepest thoughts come out when you write. You don't need to have anything in particular to write about. Just writing about anything that comes to your head no matter how dumb it may seem at first even if it "I don't know what to write..." Start with that and continue. Be honest with yourself and don't hold anything back. Don't read it all until your all done. You'll be surprised what your end product will be when you open up and just write and what you'll find out about yourself and how your truly feeling.

• Pray Out Loud- Whoever and whatever higher power you believe in take a moment and pray out loud to them. Its a combo of venting and relief. You can now be open with yourself out loud with the security of knowing that God or your high power you believe in will help you find your way. You may not receive the answer you want right there and then but you will definitely feel refreshed after.

• Get Out- Most times when we feel lost we tend to dwell on it. Makes sense because we want to be on our way, in our minds we believe we are missing out and have things to do, the problem is we don't know what that "stuff" is, which is the main reason we are feeling lost. But us sitting in the house dwelling on it usually impacts in a very emotional and negative way. So get out the house,  have fin, interact with other people. "Wait shouldn't I be trying to find my way?" Yes, true, but your lost and to fully find yourself it will take a little time and your not finding the answers you need sitting in the house so you may as well have some fun in the process. This will also help keep your mind open to other options and directions you can take to get to your next destination.

Being lost is not a bad thing rather its an opportunity to find a better destination. Gives you a chance to explore a different directions. Gives you an option to choose where you want to go until you find a place you want to make an a destination that fully suits you. This is an opportunity to try new things, go different places, meet new people to help YOU find YOU. Think of this as a road trip, when your on a trip (or when you have your goals thoughtfully planned out) we usually have tunnel vision, you know where you want to go and you go straight there, because that's where you want to be and barely even take bathroom breaks because we want to get there in a hurry. But during this road trip we have yet to find where we truly want to be, the car is gassed up and no one wants to feel like they are at a standstill or wasting time so get moving. Take a class that interest you, read a book, meet new and different people, listen to new music, discover new things you may never have known to help you find exactly what you want to do so you can type it in your goal GPS and get there. When your lost remember that you can only be found, loster is not a word, I looked it up, so find yourself during this ride, and enjoy it and know that soon you'll find your destination, and one that you know you want to be.

I spent most of yesterday cleaning my house,which is a total of 6 rooms. Since this is a chore I've been neglecting for the past two weekends because of going to various functions (excuse) but it got so out of control I didn't know where to start. Should  I wash clothes, should I wash dishes, should I start in the front, should I start in the back, should I pick up trash, do I even have any more trash bags?!? It was overwhelming and frustrating so my first reaction was to crawl back into bed and pretend I never thought about cleaning up today. Knowing that wouldn't solve anything and it would only get worse if I put it off, I decided to get a piece a paper and try to strategize what my next move would be.

1. Find Main Objective of Goal: Clean the House
2. Break Goal Down in Smaller Goals: 6 Rooms to Clean and listed the rooms from smallest to biggest
3. Break Smaller Goals even SMALLER: In each room I made a to-do list of everything that had to be done, example  for the kitchen: wash dishes, sweep floor, mop floor, check fridge, take out trash.
4. Action: Now you know what you need to do, just do it!

By breaking down my goals I now felt more in control of the situation. I knew exactly what I had to do and reality was it wasn't that hard to do once I seen it on paper. Eventually room by room got cleaned, well I neglected the laundry room but that's another story lol but I know what needs to be done, I just have to work on step four.

With this method you can do more than clean your house, you can do anything your willing to plan out, no matter how big your dreams or goals are, you can do it. It may take a while but every time you cross something off your to-do list just know your a step closer to your goal. Every once in a while you may have a task like my laundry room and you may have to take a step back and break those goals down smaller, its OK go for it, actually I think that's what I'm about to do now :). Now you know 4 easy steps to achieveing your goals are you going to accomplish?

Dear Self,

I will work on my attitude. I will be patient, I will be kind, little things and ignorant people I will look over. Only I can change my attitude. Only I can decide if I am happy or sad. Only I can control me! And today I decide that I will be happy. Today I decide that my attitude will be amazingly bliss. Things can happen, I know they will, I accept that. But I am bigger than any problem, obstacle or minor mishap. I am ME! I am an amazing being, I am fun, smart and have a great personality and my attitude about life needs to imitate that. From today forward my attitude is a positive one. I may slip from time to time, I may get mad but once i re-evaluate how great I am, and how glad I am to be me no matter what my situation maybe. Some people wish the could even obtain problem that I have, so my mind set is thankful. Thankful that I know I will get through it. "Problems of today are rarely problems of tomorrow" (Unknown)

My attitude is unstoppable, it will uplift others, and will motivate me to be even better. My attitude is more than live, laugh, love. Everyday I'm living I am loving someone and instead of laughing at others I laugh at my own mistakes because I know I do better next time. I am also living to inspire and make a difference in others. My attitude WILL reflect that! What does your attitude reflect?

There were a millon of reasons for me not to write today. My $60 dollar "clear" internet service was down, I have to work in about 2hrs, my phone key pad is acting up, I still havent eaten for the day and the list continues. But I found a way to post this by downloading a blogger application to do this and here you have this message to read.

There are a million reasons that today you may have neglated doing something that you wanted or needed to do but its not too late you can still find a way to get it done. There will always be a way and I encourage to find yours. Times there will be obstacles internet down, no time, ect. but you have three choices you can climb it, go around it, or let it stop you. Climbing it will take more work but will be your fastest option. Going around it will take less work but more time. And of course if you let it stop you, you wont get anything done.

What option are you taking with your obsticals of excuses? Are you letting them stop you from being the person you want to be or doing the things you need to do? Or are you getting ready for a journey to success? Whether or not you choose to get your hiking boots and rope to climb your obstacle or you gas up the car for a drive around it just make sure you find your way to your goals and more importantly get it done!

On rainy days like this, I always think about the day I went with my best friend Jasmyne and her mother to Missouri to drop her off to college. On the way back from this twelve hour journey to Texas it started raining. It was a little a first which quickly turned into a downpour followed by tornado warnings. I never seen rain like this, nor a tornado, and I definitely didn't want to. It started raining so hard people began pulling over to the side of the road because of the massive amount of wind and rain, but Ms. Carolyn just kept driving despite the extreme measures. I asked her after it seemed we were the only car still driving on this highway if we were going to stop. She said no, there's a tornado coming and I'm trying to get home. I laughed, I trusted her judgment and I was ready to get these 12 hours out the way anyways. Then I asked her "well where's the tornado coming from?" She replied that she wasn't sure very nonchalantly. I then started wondering if we should have pulled over along with the rest of the cars, what if we driving into the tornado? It's not like we could see up ahead, it was cloudy and it was raining so hard the windshield wipers couldn't keep up, I couldn't see how she could even see, which is probably why many cars pulled over. Not even 15minutes later after the rain slowed, the sun came out, and created a cute little sun shower until the rain finally stopped. I smiled. We were the only car on the road. I looked back and saw the grey clouds we came out of and thought good thing we kept driving.

Sometimes in life its going to rain, and it may get so bad that you don't see a way out of your situation, these are the times in life you got to decide are if you are going to stop and sit in it or are you going to keep on driving through the rain?

Nike's slogan talks about more than just clothes it also talks about life. Sometimes we just need to do it. Whatever "it" maybe to you just do "it". We spend a lot of time talking about what we want to do or what we need to do but what if we put just as much time in actually doing it? What do you want to do that your not doing? Now you know what "it" is...JUST DO IT! Maybe you can't fly a plane if that's what your "it" is but what's stopping you from finding out what you need to do to get certified? Once you find out go  DO IT! Nothing happens over night but something happens over nights. Everyday do something that will get you closer to your goal. Soon you won't be talking you will be JUST DOING IT! It all starts with that first step. My first step was starting this blog, what's yours?

1.  Read Motivational Books/Blogs/Articles- books such as Massive Dose of Motivation, and blogs such as Self-Improvement-Saga will help you along your day to get focused and motivated.
2. Listen to Motivational Audio- whether it be motivational music or listen to your favorite motivational speaker, listening to something uplifting will be sure to get you motivated especially if you don't have time to sit and read. A great place to listen to motivational audio is at Achievement Radio
3. Hang around positive people- sometimes we don't realize it but we are surrounded by a lot of negative people, people that shoot down our dreams, jokingly, without even knowing it. Surround yourself with people that are encouraging and determined to reach their goals just like you are. A good place to meet people is at MeetUp.com
4. Follow Positive or Motivational People on Twitter- Members such as Motivationlive, Bob_D_Proctor, and Thinktosucceed, are just a few of the many positive people I follow. Looking at my timeline from my cell phone is literally an instant motivation. If you don't have twitter, try it out and you'll be surprised how many positive people are out there.
5. Look Within- Be your own motivation. Be your biggest fan and your biggest motivator. You deserve it, if your not going to do it for yourself, who are you doing it for? Treat yourself to success. At the end of the day no matter how many books you read, people you hand around, music you listen to or people you follow on Twitter on you only you motivate yourself to actively get up and pursue your dreams. Do it for you, do it for your future, do it because you deserve it!

The thoughts we choose to think are the tools we use to paint the canvas of our lives- @Bob_D_Proctor

Many of us don't realize how powerful our thoughts actually are. Our thoughts have the ability to make us or break us. The great thing about our thought though are that they are ours! We have the ability to think of anything we want, at anytime we want. We have the ability to change our mood with a simple thought, we have the ability to change our day with a simple thought and we even have the ability to change our lives. What are you thinking about? Are your thoughts helping paint a masterpiece or is it taking you through a blues period?

Change your thoughts = Changing your life!

Rejection comes in many forms, in a letter saying you weren't admitted to your dream school, a call from a job saying that they found someone else, or even face to face from a mate/partner who told you that you no long fit in their lives. It happens! Its definitely isn't a good feeling but you can't just sit around feeling bad about yourself all day, so what do you do?

1. ACCEPT IT- understand if there was something you could do about it hopefully you'll be doing it now and not reading this. You can't force someone to love you, you can't force a school to accept you and you cant force a job to hire you. So accept it and realize maybe this isn't for you at this moment of your life and concentrate on what you can change.
2. ANALYZE IT- Most times when you've been rejected you'll get a reason why? If not it's okay to call and ask why. Even if you don't get a cut clear answer think abut what you could have done differently? Do you need more experience? Get it. More knowledge about the particular job? Find it. Work on your attitude? Change it. Whatever it is find out what you need to do and improve on that particular aspect.
3. TRY AGAIN- Now that you've analyzed and improved now its time to implement what you've learned. Try again! You may or may not try again with the same company or the same companion but never give up on the essence of what your striving for. With relationships it maybe love or support. With school it maybe the programs offered. With your job it maybe a particular position or financial benefits. There are many people out there waiting to find someone to love, many schools that offer the same programs, and there are many of the same positions out there waiting to be filled. So what are you waiting for?

Life is a journey not a race. Its okay to stop and cry or even ask for direction but realize you got places to go and people to see, and really who wants to spend all there time at a rest stop anyways? So take a moment and breathe deeply....breathe again....and one more time....now tell your self "I GOT THINGS TO DO TODAY!" And now continue on your journey to success!

Hello to all:


Welcome to "The Motivational Experience: For You, For Me, For Us". This experience will consist of positive, motivational and inspirational information to help you through this ultimate experience called LIFE.  You only have one life to live so you may as well live it to the fullest. Lets focus on what YOU want to do with your life. What you want to accomplish during your experience on this earth? Now lets take the next step and do it. If you believe it you can achieve it!

This experience can be whatever you want it to be. As long as your remotely motivated or inspired I did my part. Its up to you to use it to better yourself and those around you. Are you ready to do your part? Are you ready to make a difference? Are you ready for The Motivational Experience?


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